We all have “money messages” we take away from our childhood. Not necessarily lessons learned from a sit down conversation, but observations about how those who raised us viewed money. While some of my tendencies to be a saver are in my genes, I learned early on, never to love something that can’t love me back. It was a waste of time, energy, and money to fawn over or buy stuff, objects, and things. They would just become clutter and could never fill any sort of void or emotional hole in my life.
Don’t get me wrong, I definitely had plenty of the “I want it now”, “ I have to have it”, and “I need it to survive” moments in my life. I could never understand why come holidays and birthdays my parents didn’t want any store bought gifts and were happy with the handmade “goodies” we would bring home from school. Then I grew up, moved out of my childhood home, started working for my own paycheck, and had my own bills to pay. Now I get it, it’s not about stuff. It’s about surrounding yourself with people that you love and enjoying the time you get to share together. Stuff fills up your closet with clutter, family and friends fill up your heart. Which would you rather spend your time, energy, and money on, the items that don’t know you exist or the people that love you back?
(photo by james jordan)